November 21, 2008
Love Affairs
Love affairs —the very phrase brings up all sorts of emotions. Love affairs are wonderful. Love affairs are awful. Love affairs are glorious. Love affairs are hurtful. Love affairs are the most destructive thing in the world. Love affairs are the most creative thing in the world.
I have often thought if every woman in the world made a pact with every other woman in the world to never, ever go out with a married man that the divorce rate would almost disappear. What makes a woman want to date a married man with a family? I have never been able to figure that one out. Is it the thrill of the forbidden? Do you realize how many lives you destroy in your selfishness?
And don’t married men realize that if they spent half of the energy on their wives that they spend trying to get someone to date them, that their marriages would improve? If every woman in the world just said “I don’t go out with married men” I wonder how the divorce rate would drop? And as for married women having affairs — same rules apply…have an affair with your husband, instead. Make him the special one in your life.
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bandnerdtx said,
November 22, 2008 at 8:43 am
As someone who has been on both sides of this fence, I couldn’t agree with you more. I think the appeal of married men is something primal… he’s in a steady relationship, seemingly providing for his family… It’s something the women are taught to seek.
What the “other woman” doesn’t realize is that he is acting on primordial instincts as well. The married man who seeks a mistress hasn’t evolved past the need to spread his seed like an animal.
The bottom line is that working to fix a relationship is DIFFICULT, and our entire society is based on immediate gratification now. So our divorce rate continues to climb…
pdxfirefly said,
November 24, 2008 at 1:11 pm
Thank you for your valuable insights. You are right…working to fix a relationship is difficult and many marriages never survive the damage. It is far better to avoid the tempation in the first place as difficult as that may be,